Carolyn McCulley Joins A Matchmaking Agency!
Captain Sensible writes: Yep, it's true! Carolyn McCulley has joined a matchmaking agency!
But it's not for marriage.
Rather, it seems to be a young person's mentoring scheme, run by a local government agency (although she calls it "fostering". Maybe there is a different understanding of the concept of fostering between the US and the UK?).
I think this is a great thing to do and I really wish her and her new "match" all the very best with it!
But it strikes me that there is a double standard in operation here.
If Carolyn thinks God is leading her to mentor a young person, then why isn't she "waiting on the Lord" to bring a young person into her life, maybe by suddenly appearing in her church one Sunday? Does she feel God needs some help from an agency to bring her and her match together? Isn't God perfectly capable of bringing the two of them together without the need for any outside help in any way?
This is complete nonsense of course, and Carolyn obviously understands this.
But why then is she so adamant that all single Christians need to do is "wait on the Lord" for Him to just land their spouse in their lap?
Carolyn has written previously about the unmitigated perils of online dating and even advises against Christian-run, singles mixers. Simply widening one's social circle doesn't even meet Carolyn's strict criteria for "waiting on the Lord".
Here's an extract from her terribly harmful book:
"One comment many singles hear frequently is that we need to be out and about, running from one event to another so that we can 'broaden our horizons.' People who advise single women that way may mean well, but they don't have a place for God in their thinking. They can't imagine a God who orchestrates the events and timing of our lives to the tiniest details."
Hmmm - so does Carolyn now believe that God can't orchestrate something so simple as a mentoring relationship?
Or has she finally come to the realisation that although God can, and does, orchestrate our lives to the tiniest detail, He also desires us to play a wise and active part in it, and be co-workers with Him. Which obviously includes, in this case, signing-up to a mentoring agency scheme!
Is the next step for Carolyn going to be signing-up with a Christian dating agency?
And if it is, will she be humble enough to confess that she had got her understanding of the sovereignty of God badly wrong, and accordingly, given bad and harmful advice to countless single Christians along the way?
Sadly, I am not holding my breath.
But it's not for marriage.
Rather, it seems to be a young person's mentoring scheme, run by a local government agency (although she calls it "fostering". Maybe there is a different understanding of the concept of fostering between the US and the UK?).
I think this is a great thing to do and I really wish her and her new "match" all the very best with it!
But it strikes me that there is a double standard in operation here.
If Carolyn thinks God is leading her to mentor a young person, then why isn't she "waiting on the Lord" to bring a young person into her life, maybe by suddenly appearing in her church one Sunday? Does she feel God needs some help from an agency to bring her and her match together? Isn't God perfectly capable of bringing the two of them together without the need for any outside help in any way?
This is complete nonsense of course, and Carolyn obviously understands this.
But why then is she so adamant that all single Christians need to do is "wait on the Lord" for Him to just land their spouse in their lap?
Carolyn has written previously about the unmitigated perils of online dating and even advises against Christian-run, singles mixers. Simply widening one's social circle doesn't even meet Carolyn's strict criteria for "waiting on the Lord".
Here's an extract from her terribly harmful book:
"One comment many singles hear frequently is that we need to be out and about, running from one event to another so that we can 'broaden our horizons.' People who advise single women that way may mean well, but they don't have a place for God in their thinking. They can't imagine a God who orchestrates the events and timing of our lives to the tiniest details."
Hmmm - so does Carolyn now believe that God can't orchestrate something so simple as a mentoring relationship?
Or has she finally come to the realisation that although God can, and does, orchestrate our lives to the tiniest detail, He also desires us to play a wise and active part in it, and be co-workers with Him. Which obviously includes, in this case, signing-up to a mentoring agency scheme!
Is the next step for Carolyn going to be signing-up with a Christian dating agency?
And if it is, will she be humble enough to confess that she had got her understanding of the sovereignty of God badly wrong, and accordingly, given bad and harmful advice to countless single Christians along the way?
Sadly, I am not holding my breath.
posted by Captain Sensible at 11:51 PM
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Here's another thought: How does Carolyn know that the young woman (I'm assuming she will be a woman) will really be God's best for her to mentor?
After all, isn't she taking matters into her own hands, or rather, trusting in the scheme's administrators instead of God, to bring them both together?
Just another ludicrous conclusion to the faulty teaching that the likes of Carolyn herself, and her support team at Boundless, stubbornly choose to continue to promote...
Captain Sensible, I have posted a comment on Carolyn McCulley's board, and she has published it. It is one of the comments in response to her becoming a foster mentor. Just wanted to let you know, Lisa Brown.
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