Getting Serious with Debbie Maken - view the live chat!
Captain Sensible writes: The live chat with Canon Press has now been transcribed and can be read by clicking here. But here a few of Debbie's wise words just to whet your appetite!
"I wish the married people would get the message, but most of them, especially if they have not had to suffer a protracted singlehood, almost seem to have this smug attitude of how they must have done things just right that God decided to bequeath them their spouse in a timely fashion. I do see a shift in thinking. I have heard of some pastors publicly apologizing to their congregations because they may not have accurately handled the word on this subject."
"Look for someone near his age, similar backgrounds/education/professional status, looks, parity, etc."
"Yes, the impact on the kingdom for failing to produce godly seed is something that will be felt, but is hard to calculate....This must be one of those truths that is the most neglected. I spoke on this in London for a few minutes and just assumed that most evangelicals saw the connection that singleness and barrenness is not going to be pretty when the heathen population overtakes us in a couple generations. But virtually everyone came up to me later and said that this was like some kind of new revelation. The problem is that men have been taught that they can take their own free time in selecting and deciding upon a mate, and they see this as a victimless action."
"I think it is better to be married than be single. Mediocre is really just a point of view, and people can make of their marriages what they want it to be. My ideas should cause people to evaluate where their dating lives went wrong and how to get serious about marriage; it should not cause anyone to 'rush' into marriage, or 'settle' verses 'settling down.' If someone is considering marrying someone they think is mediocre, they need to call off that engagement."
"I wish the married people would get the message, but most of them, especially if they have not had to suffer a protracted singlehood, almost seem to have this smug attitude of how they must have done things just right that God decided to bequeath them their spouse in a timely fashion. I do see a shift in thinking. I have heard of some pastors publicly apologizing to their congregations because they may not have accurately handled the word on this subject."
"Look for someone near his age, similar backgrounds/education/professional status, looks, parity, etc."
"Yes, the impact on the kingdom for failing to produce godly seed is something that will be felt, but is hard to calculate....This must be one of those truths that is the most neglected. I spoke on this in London for a few minutes and just assumed that most evangelicals saw the connection that singleness and barrenness is not going to be pretty when the heathen population overtakes us in a couple generations. But virtually everyone came up to me later and said that this was like some kind of new revelation. The problem is that men have been taught that they can take their own free time in selecting and deciding upon a mate, and they see this as a victimless action."
"I think it is better to be married than be single. Mediocre is really just a point of view, and people can make of their marriages what they want it to be. My ideas should cause people to evaluate where their dating lives went wrong and how to get serious about marriage; it should not cause anyone to 'rush' into marriage, or 'settle' verses 'settling down.' If someone is considering marrying someone they think is mediocre, they need to call off that engagement."
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