Candice Watters: You're Grrrrrrrrreat!
Captain Sensible writes: Having expressed some exasperation with Boundless before for the mixed messages they send out, and the confusing way in which they may write a valuable blog post and then let it get lost amidst a sea of contrary comments until the reader's brain is so scrambled that they are left more muddled than ever ... I am now delighted to eat humble pie -- and it tastes soooo goood!
A heartfelt thank you to Candice Watters for writing this: Misguided Compassion.
(And I would like to write some more on this later!)
A heartfelt thank you to Candice Watters for writing this: Misguided Compassion.
(And I would like to write some more on this later!)
posted by Captain Sensible at 12:28 AM
5 Comments:
I read the article and was astonished at the response of the one church singles group leader who refused to even tell her group about the Boundless singles mixer, because they wanted to, among other things, reinforce contentment with the single state! Heaven forbid that singles actually admit in THAT group that they want anything else! It tickled me no end that this group produced more mixer attendees than any other church that was invited - and I hope the leader found that out. It might shake her up a little. No chance she'll be dating soon, I warrant...
I concur Captain. What a perfect piece that was. So often my regret in this debate is that people do not use their words carefully, and every word chosen by Candice was perfect and pieced together beautifully to convey a sentiment much needed in this dialogue. i.e, that sympathy and compassion are not the same, and they motivate people to act very differently.
Debbie Maken
Thanks for referencing that article by the very wise and perceptive Candice. I immediately want to forward it to a bunch of "well-meaning" people and just hope that they get the message. Likely, many of them would be offended. Who do I think I am anyways, trying to force God's hand on something?! I need to sit back and be patient.
Please keep up the good work. That church's response reminds me of the Bible verse that references the end times, where there will be some who "refuse marriage" among other things that are listed as disobedient and abhorrent to God.
Compassion, as defined on Wikipedia, is a "sense of shared suffering, most often combined with a desire to alleviate or reduce such suffering." The entry continues, "Compassionate acts are generally considered those which take into account the suffering of others and attempt to alleviate that suffering as if it were one's own. In this sense, the various forms of the Golden Rule are clearly based on the concept of compassion."
This sums it all up for me. then the article goes on to relate the story of the good samaritan. But furthur than this, compassion is a deeper love, i know because i have felt it many times. We have to really search out Compassion, grace and true mercy. This is christs example to all of us and it is all about our relationship with him and his to us and it equals love - bingo!!! simple as.And love and marriage are intertwined. God is love and marriage was made in heaven, the marriage of God to us his people.
Candice is absolutely right when she says this:
"A quick look at the messages coming out of most singles groups, Christian books for singles and singles websites and blogs reveals a common theme: 'If God wants you married,' they reason, 'He'll make it happen. If you try to make it happen, you'll risk upsetting God's will for your life. Be the best single you can be and leave the rest to Him.'"
So if Candice disagrees -- which it appears she does -- wouldn't it be a good idea to correct these views, at least when they appear as comments on Boundless's own blog?
Otherwise, is Boundless not guilty of spreading this kind of thinking itself?
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