Muslim Man Speaking With Wisdom About Masculinity
True conversation between a 31 year old married Muslim man and a single Christian woman, at work:
Man: I am happily married and we just had a son seven weeks ago. Here's a picture of him (proudly shows picture on phone). His name is Ibrahim.
Woman: Oh, he's beautiful! So, is that why you are doing the extra hours then? Must be hard, because you probably just want to be at home with them?
Man: Yes, but I want to be able to provide for them, you know, properly.
Woman: Yes, of course. Well, it's so good to hear you speak like that when so many men seem fearful of commitment and don't want to take on the responsibility of a family.
Man: Well, they're not real men, are they?
Man: I am happily married and we just had a son seven weeks ago. Here's a picture of him (proudly shows picture on phone). His name is Ibrahim.
Woman: Oh, he's beautiful! So, is that why you are doing the extra hours then? Must be hard, because you probably just want to be at home with them?
Man: Yes, but I want to be able to provide for them, you know, properly.
Woman: Yes, of course. Well, it's so good to hear you speak like that when so many men seem fearful of commitment and don't want to take on the responsibility of a family.
Man: Well, they're not real men, are they?
posted by Captain Sensible at 6:45 AM
2 Comments:
While I applaud the Muslim man's attitude about masculinity and the responsibility towards his family, and wish to hell we would see more Christian men do the same, I do think that it might send the wrong message to single Christian women that it is OK to date and marry Muslim men. Maybe you may disagree. I don't know.
Thanks for pointing out the potential for confusion, Shazia.
Let's be clear: I am NOT advocating marrying (or even dating) Muslim men; men of any other religion; or even men of no religion.
However, this doesn't mean Christian women are limited to men in "church" circles.
There is a harvest of believing men out there, that have been alienated by church and are in need of encouragement in their faith, and they most certainly ARE suitable candidates for dating and even marriage.
What's more, it could perhaps even be considered the duty of single Christian women to do this?
Church leaders have failed to reach out to men in the world, so sadly, Christian women are burdened with the responsibility of bringing in the harvest themselves. (Although I would strongly suggest a prayer and accountability partner who is a mature Christian woman, if at all possible.)
God doesn't make mathematical gender ratio mistakes, despite what the church would have us think. I really cannot believe it is "God's will" for the church to be so female-heavy, for the simple reason that it would contradict the commands and instructions that are threaded through Scripture.
Church leaders will have much to give an account for one day, including:
Failing to bring in the harvest of a whole generation of lost men, in lieu of an easy and comfortable life filled with unchallenging women's and children's ministries.
Failing to facilitate marriage so that Christians can be fruitful and multiply, and instead, condemning most single Christian women to a cursed life of barren spinsterhood.
Failing to protect, support and encourage God's precious daughters in their desire to be the wives and mothers God created them to be, and instead spiritual abusing them by scolding them for imaginary crimes of idolatry, and discontentment with a situation that no one has any business being content about in the first place.
Failing to disciple the men in the church towards Biblical manhood, and consequently aiding and abetting the enemy by making purposeless eunuchs out of them.
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