Debbie Maken reveals the truth about the gift of singleness: "holy doublespeak/theologized serendipity"

"Excellent point about the Jewish community's extensive network to pair young adults. But these kind of social networks only exist because that culture still holds the value that an individual should be married by a certain time. For example, Orthodox Jewish families pull out all stops when a child reaches 25; that matchmaker is called in pronto. As Christians, we no longer have those values and believe that a marriage, if and whenever, erected is a good viable marriage as any other. Christians do not believe in any normatives about marriage making thanks to the GoS ("gift of singleness") teachings; and hence, we do not have the infrastructure toward that goal. All we have is this holy doublespeak/ theologized serendipity to justify and explain away the many, many loose ends from an unpredictable mating scheme of dating. You will see the infrastructure changing as you see the dialogue ensuing about what constitutes a real marriage, and whether it needs to occur during a certain season (i.e. youth) to have viability as a real marriage."
(Debbie Maken's reply to a comment on her blog)