"Waiting and Trusting in God for a Spouse" or Co-Workers with God?
Captain Sensible writes: Is it, or is it not okay, for Christian women (and men!) to "wait on the Lord and trust in God for a spouse"?
It's a simple question really.
The Bible tells us we need to be "co-workers" with God. Where in the Bible is an exception made with regard to finding a spouse?
On the contrary, don't we see proactivity on behalf of the male, and even, in times of desperation, the women?
This question has been brought to mind after reading the following comment on Boundless: "...it makes me so thankful that I'm trusting God to bring the right guy into my life at the right time."
This idea is said so often, and always left uncorrected on Boundless and elsewhere, that it is now accepted as irrefutable truth.
But what if it was said in regard to finding a job?
Would it be acceptable for Christian men and women to languish on the dole for year after year, decade after decade, while they "wait" and "trust" in God for a job?
As I believe Debbie Maken points out, we are foisting the results of our mistakes onto God, and in all too many cases, God is then blamed for protracted singleness.
Rather that attribute this to God, let's look at what we have allowed to happen.
We have followed our culture in denigrating marriage -- regarding it as non-essential and equal to singleness; we have encouraged passivity amongst both men and women to the extent that some feel sinful for being proactive (as if they then won't receive "God's best"); and we have allowed our churches to become female-heavy to varying degrees.
And yet the fruit we see from this is attributed to "God's perfect timing"?
How and why has this idea become so firmly rooted?
The answer: Quite simply, it has to be the work of the devil. And we have therefore, and no doubt inadvertently, become co-workers with him.
It's time to "choose life".
It's a simple question really.
The Bible tells us we need to be "co-workers" with God. Where in the Bible is an exception made with regard to finding a spouse?
On the contrary, don't we see proactivity on behalf of the male, and even, in times of desperation, the women?
This question has been brought to mind after reading the following comment on Boundless: "...it makes me so thankful that I'm trusting God to bring the right guy into my life at the right time."
This idea is said so often, and always left uncorrected on Boundless and elsewhere, that it is now accepted as irrefutable truth.
But what if it was said in regard to finding a job?
Would it be acceptable for Christian men and women to languish on the dole for year after year, decade after decade, while they "wait" and "trust" in God for a job?
As I believe Debbie Maken points out, we are foisting the results of our mistakes onto God, and in all too many cases, God is then blamed for protracted singleness.
Rather that attribute this to God, let's look at what we have allowed to happen.
We have followed our culture in denigrating marriage -- regarding it as non-essential and equal to singleness; we have encouraged passivity amongst both men and women to the extent that some feel sinful for being proactive (as if they then won't receive "God's best"); and we have allowed our churches to become female-heavy to varying degrees.
And yet the fruit we see from this is attributed to "God's perfect timing"?
How and why has this idea become so firmly rooted?
The answer: Quite simply, it has to be the work of the devil. And we have therefore, and no doubt inadvertently, become co-workers with him.
It's time to "choose life".
posted by Captain Sensible at 12:35 AM
2 Comments:
I have a question which has been pounding my mind for ages: if God is more powerful than anyone or anything (and I'm not implying that He isn't!), including Satan, then how comes it feels that the Devil is accomplishing what he wants to have accomplished?
How come the Devil seems to be winning over God (the Most Powerful) by somehow successfully making the following happen (your statement in quotes): "We have followed our culture in denigrating marriage -- regarding it as non-essential and equal to singleness; we have encouraged passivity amongst both men and women to the extent that some feel sinful for being proactive (as if they then won't receive "God's best"); and we have allowed our churches to become female-heavy to varying degrees."
I just wish I could figure out why God's power does not seem to be changing this situation for the better. I am NOT trying to deny God's power but I am angered and perplexed as to why it looks like Satan is winning this.
Shazia - It's a good question, and I hope that someone else may be able to help here too.
The way I understand it is threefold:
1) There are some things that just won't make sense this side of heaven. Simple as.
2) God works everything for the good, so even the bad things that are not "His will", He can and does work for the eventual good.
3) We should not be surprised by bad things that happen, both inside and outside of Christian circles. Specifically, we are warned about false teaching and the dangers of "human wisdom" very clearly in the Bible. There are also "deceiving spirits" that will misinterpret God's Word.
But I am a little out of my depth with this one, so maybe raise the question in broad terms with a mature Christian that you know?
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