Frederika Mathewes-Green: A call for MORE teen pregnancies!
Captain Sensible writes: Many thanks to my very good friend who sent in the link to another of Mathewes-Green's articles: "Let's have more teen pregnancies".
She is spot on, and although the concept of "teen pregnancies" raises alarm bells at first, really it shouldn't. It is unwed teen pregnancies that are the problem.
She makes many good points, among them:
1) How we are hardwired to want sex, not go on an abstinence marathon.
2) How a woman's body is designed to have children most healthily in her youth (and men too, we now understand).
3) How having children young means benefits throughout the generations, with young and active grandparents, great-grand grandparents etc. and so eliminating a lonely old age and benefiting the younger generation with years of experienced wisdom and love.
But one thing that struck me as a highly original thought was this:
"A pattern of late marriage may actually increase the rate of divorce. During that initial decade of physical adulthood, young people may not be getting married, but they're still falling in love. They fall in love, and break up, and undergo terrible pain, but find that with time they get over it. They may do this many times. Gradually, they get used to it; they learn that they can give their hearts away, and take them back again; they learn to shield their hearts from access in the first place. They learn to approach a relationship with the goal of getting what they want, and keep their bags packed by the door. By the time they marry they may have had many opportunities to learn how to walk away from a promise. They've been training for divorce."
There are far too many good points for me to even know where to start by pulling-out a few more extracts.
So please, please, read the article in its entirety here.
We really need to start being truly Biblical and counter cultural.
And sadly, in our generation, that means being counter church cultural too.
She is spot on, and although the concept of "teen pregnancies" raises alarm bells at first, really it shouldn't. It is unwed teen pregnancies that are the problem.
She makes many good points, among them:
1) How we are hardwired to want sex, not go on an abstinence marathon.
2) How a woman's body is designed to have children most healthily in her youth (and men too, we now understand).
3) How having children young means benefits throughout the generations, with young and active grandparents, great-grand grandparents etc. and so eliminating a lonely old age and benefiting the younger generation with years of experienced wisdom and love.
But one thing that struck me as a highly original thought was this:
"A pattern of late marriage may actually increase the rate of divorce. During that initial decade of physical adulthood, young people may not be getting married, but they're still falling in love. They fall in love, and break up, and undergo terrible pain, but find that with time they get over it. They may do this many times. Gradually, they get used to it; they learn that they can give their hearts away, and take them back again; they learn to shield their hearts from access in the first place. They learn to approach a relationship with the goal of getting what they want, and keep their bags packed by the door. By the time they marry they may have had many opportunities to learn how to walk away from a promise. They've been training for divorce."
There are far too many good points for me to even know where to start by pulling-out a few more extracts.
So please, please, read the article in its entirety here.
We really need to start being truly Biblical and counter cultural.
And sadly, in our generation, that means being counter church cultural too.
posted by Captain Sensible at 12:22 AM
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